Proverbs 11:2

When pride comes (boiling up with an arrogant attitude of self-importance), then come dishonor and shame. But with the humble (the teachable who have been chiseled by trial and who have learned to walk humbly with God), there is wisdom and soundness of mind.

Our flesh will puff itself up and push us to speak and do things that we regret.  When we value self-importance over a relationship, we will lose our connections.  When we have a humble spirit and are teachable, we can hear from the Holy Spirit and operate in wisdom.  The more experience we gain in our walk with the Lord, the more we will be able to walk in wisdom.